"Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart" Discussion Night 1

Last night was the first night of Kaleo's book discussion on "Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart".  There was a great turn out.  I love this book!   John Ensor has so much great insight.  I hope that everyone at Kaleo reads this book even if they can't come on Thursday nights.  It would provide great guidance for each of their lives and help empower them when their friends come to them with relationship problems.  Last night we talked a lot about the culture's distorted view of love, relationships, and marriage.  Instead of trying to imitate how love is portrayed in movies, novels, TV, and magazines we should seek guidance from the Bible and godly happily married couples in the church as an example to follow. 

There are so many great quotes in this book it is hard for me to pick one!  But last night a young man mentioned if he had a daughter he would want her to heed this quote (me too!)...  "The woman who lacks discretion is defenseless when it comes to fraudulent love.  Sadly, the worst kind of man is often the best at seduction.  They know what to say and are bold to say it.  Godly men are often hesitant and halting.  The predator flows with talk of love and oozes with sensuality.  Predators are devious in that they appear to be conforming to your agenda, when they are merely wearing you down to the point where you conform to their agenda.  They are there to conquer and consume.  Sister, you'd better get discretion or buy Kleenex in bulk."  A little further on Ensor talks more on the importance of discretion for single ladies...  "Sisters, without discretion, you conform to the practices around you.  With discretion comes a little rebellion against the status quo, a little nonconformity.  Without discretion sex is merely Elmer's glue for making things stick.  With discretion comes insight into the value of unmet sexual desire in guiding a man towards the kind of healthy, tender, long-term relationship that is your heart's desire.  Without discretion you are in danger.  With discretion the best of predatory men are easily spotted and defeated.  They are rendered a joke."

I hope everyone (and more) comes back next week.  And please READ the book!